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I am socially anxious…

Anxiety has no discrimination. It can affect anyone from any background, any ethnic group, any age, any gender, any religion – anyone. Anxiety affects all aspects of a person’s life every single day of the year. It cannot be cured – it is a long term condition – but it can be managed.

Having anxiety means…

You worry that something you say or do will make someone else unhappy,

You can’t meet new people or talk to strangers,

It’s hard to make friends, or keep old ones,

Leaving the house makes you feel anxious,

Sometimes talking at home makes you feel uneasy,

It’s impossible to answer the phone or work up the courage to ring someone,

You count money over and over when waiting at a till because you’re scared you haven’t got enough money.

You hate using public transport,

You have panic attacks for no reason at all,

Any time a group of people laugh in a room, you think they’re laughing at you,

You hate walking into a room full of people because you feel they are judging you,

You replay conversations in your head for hours,

Your life is structured around what other people think,

You want everything to be perfect,

You feel like people are always watching you,

It’s hard to ask people for help,

You feel like everything you do looks silly,

You know what you have to do to be social but you just can’t do it,

You know the fear is irrational but nothing you do gets rid of it….

Anxiety is damaging. Anxiety is misunderstood. Anxiety is not rude, anti-social, shy, a lack of confidence…it is a mental health condition…

Let’s end the stigma.


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5 Anxiety Myths

  1. Anxiety is not an illness – Some feelings of anxiety can be normal and often arise due to stress or a scary event such as public speaking, but an anxiety disorder is an extreme form of anxiety that can cause impairment and disruption of daily activities, and is a very real mental illness.
  2. Having an anxiety disorder means the person just worries too much and can’t be treated – There is a suggested link between anxiety and genetic components but effective treatment such as medication and therapy can help anxiety stay under control. According to a research published in Current Pharmaceutical Design, as many as 2/3 of anxiety disorders are genetic. The most effective approach of treating anxiety is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
  3. Anxiety disorders aren’t common – While 2.6% of the population in the UK experience depression and 4.7% have anxiety problems, as many as 9.7% suffer mixed depression and anxiety, making it the most prevalent mental health problem in the population as a whole. Nearly 1 out of 5 Americans experience some type of anxiety disorder in any given year. Most people believe that anxiety disorders are rare due to their isolating behaviour. You may never encounter someone with an anxiety disorder as they are often avoiding social situations, conversations and events.
  4. Anxiety gets better if you leave it alone – Anxiety does not get better if left alone. In fact, it gets worse. The average person with a diagnosable anxiety disorder tends to wait around 10 years before seeking or receiving help. Most people with an anxiety disorder who are able to partly function everyday often delay getting help in hopes that the anxiety will go away but this rarely happens. Furthermore, around 60% of people with anxiety disorders often develop some degree of diagnosable depression which also requires treatment.
  5. Anxiety is easy to just snap out of and people don’t really have a problem with it – Anxiety disorders are very difficult to overcome without any professional guidance and help. Meeting new people, seeing spiders, being in closed spaces or avoiding germs can seem stupid to many people who do not have anxiety disorders so it can be easy for them to think that a person can just get over their anxiety. However, many people who suffer with an anxiety disorder suffer periods of anxiety that may not relate to any specific fear. Fear and worry often lead to avoidance which increases the fear and worry. This is hard to break and often needs help.